random thoughts

I consider one thing inexcusable in all its forms: rudeness. My blood pressure shoots up when I hear of someone being humiliated for being weak, mentally challenged or aesthetically unpleasant. Nobody chooses to be born with Down’s syndrome, nobody chooses to have their muscles paralyzed in an accident, and if everyone had a choice, we’d all choose to be identical twins of either Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt.

In college, I had a classmate who walked funny. Andrew had leg braces that barely enabled him to negotiate the flight of stairs to our third-floor classroom in the AB Building. Dorky, black-rimmed thick glasses framed his face and 9 times out of 10, saliva would dribble out of his mouth whenever he’d talk. Was he mentally-incapacitated? Onlookers would think so. The popular guys made fun of him while the pretty girls avoided him. Cool guys would try to pick up a fight to prove how brave they were but I think Andrew, back then, was braver. Why didn’t I pat him on the back and tell him how brave I thought he was for coming to school everyday, fighting off feelings of insecurity and fighting for the education that was rightly his to acquire? College-aged me must have been shallow, or too wrapped up with petty things as hair and school projects to encourage my classmate Andrew.

But maybe someday, when I’m a bit wiser, when my writing pencil has been sharpened by experience, I’d write about him. Or others like him who needs to feel a little safer, a little more welcome in a world obssessed with perfection.

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“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye,” the fox advises the Little Prince. How could a fictional character have more wisdom than us who live in the real world?

With age comes reason. With the wisdom time lends us, people can learn how the most important things are usually the most intangible. Material worth can be measured in figures from a passbook, or the size of one’s treasures: cars, houses, gadgets. But truly essential is what’s inside the heart of a man—

Integrity. Strength of character. Trustworthiness. Kindness. Faith. Love.

There’s no reason to fault a guy for being shorter than normal. But he who is rude to his fellowmen is inexcusable. No elevator shoes can help him whose second name is abrasive to stand tall.

8 Responses to “random thoughts”
  1. snglguy says:

    “My blood pressure shoots up when I hear of someone being humiliated for being weak, mentally challenged or aesthetically unpleasant.” – Exactly how I feel whenever I hear those stupid noontime TV hosts make fun of some of the contestants.

  2. bengalba says:

    Maybe they just don’t realize what it really costs to elicit laughter from the audience. The contestants don’t seem to mind tho, they’re just happy to be on TV, and one step closer to getting the prize money. 😦 Oh well. Sad, really.

  3. Gypsy says:

    I think that is one aspect of our culture I find sad: we pick on people’s appearance and handicap and find it funny..and those TV personalities don’t know any better…sigh!

  4. gina c. says:

    wow! new lay-out. chocolate background, yummy!

    During our monthly visit to bookstore, my son bought 2 books -one of them The Little Prince. And he was amused by the interaction between the Little Prince and the animals, flowers, etc.

    My eldest son was called names by some of his classmates, it’s good he has good sense of humor and they can’t put him down. He even invited those classmates to play in our house and lent his books and Cds to them.

  5. Swipe says:

    Maybe it just me but this doesn’t seem so random. I guess we all have met an Andrew sometime in our lives. It’s how we treat them that defines our character.

  6. bernadette says:

    glad you’re back and on a very disturbing topic. When I was small I witnessed a terrible ganging up of goons on two beggars both mute and without any limbs. The beggars just wanted their food but the goons were having a great time. No one even went to the side of the two beggars. This made a strong impact on me and I even know it was in the il de tuls of Quiapo. I was about 8 or 9. Now, because of this memory I would be more feisty and tell people off when I see such behavior. This goes not just for any handicapped person but also for ethnic or negroids or anyone who looks different. I just pray for guidance for a lot of misguided folks around. Our culture lacks the true essence of compassion and respect for the living.

  7. bengalba says:

    Hi Gypsy, o nga eh. Is ours the only culture that does this or is this just evidence of our fallen, human race? It’s one thing to be playful and joke a family member or friend, it’s another to make fun of a stranger–on national TV no less!

    Hi Mommy Gina C, glad to hear your son Daniel is taking it well. Magaling ang pagpapalaki mo! Whatever names his classmates his calling him, sooner or later they would realize how SMART he is and start appreciating him. Kids can sometimes be cruel, kasi nga di pa nila alam na mali yun. Pero ok ha, kind naman niya.
    As for the book, I have a hardbound copy of the book.One of my treasured possessions (tho it’s on loan to somebody now. 🙂 )

    Hi Swipe, didn’t know how to title this post. Wala kasi akong outline kaya random thoughts lang. But i agree, it’s a common occurence. As if those who taunt others are perfect no? Writing this post reminded me to be kinder–across the board. 🙂

    Hi ‘Te Bernadette, what an unfortunate recollection. That’s just so MEAN of the goons to have done that. We can only be appeased by the thought that God is the avenger and the protector of the poor and weak. This fallen world, because of the entrance of sin, is cruel. But slivers of beauty can still shine through. With the realization of God’s love, and His love reflected through the kindness of people like you. 🙂

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